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Fertility Match: Setting a New Standard for Fertility Consulting in Canada We are thrilled to announce the launch of Fertility Match Canada, a lifelong dream brought to reality by the agency’s Co-Founders, Lisa Casselman and Liz Ellwood. Fertility Match is the first...
My wife Lisa (Fertility Match co-founder) has given birth to two sets of twins as a gestational surrogate mother. These have been wonderful journeys for our family as well as for us as a couple. Partners need to have a strong relationship to go through an experience like this. When my wife explained to me her desire to help others who were unable to have children become parents, I thought that was a wonderful thing she wanted to do. I supported her 100% through both of her surrogacies. There will be ups and downs, just like in other areas of life; But if you love and support each other and have a strong relationship this can be one of the most rewarding experiences you will ever have.
Surrogacy is a very personal choice. The reasons why a woman chooses to be a surrogate vary. I chose to be a surrogate mother to help another woman who couldn’t conceive become a mother. When starting out on your journey as a surrogate, take time to think about who you are meant to help. Is it a single parent, a heterosexual couple or a same sex couple? Once you decide who you want to help, you will begin to “date” potential intended parents. This is a very important part of the process. Just like dating a potential romantic interest – you quickly learn what you are looking for in this relationship.
Selecting a surrogate mother to share this journey with is one of, if not the most, important decisions you will make during this process. I have been working in the fertility industry for over 10 years and have been through choosing a surrogate myself; the right match can make the experience fulfilling and very predictable. Unfortunately, many parents are in such a hurry to get the process started they may overlook some important details that can lead to stress and conflict down the road. Here are five questions I think you should ask yourself as an intended parent when deciding if a potential surrogate is the right fit for you.