Breaking the Stigma

Read about Co-Founder and 2x Surrogate Lisa’s first experience at a fertility clinic.

I was completely caught off guard the first time I walked into a fertility clinic for cycle monitoring.  My thoughts were that I would be walking into an empty, quiet waiting room where a lab tech was waiting for my arrival.  I was extremely short sighted. 

I did walk into a very quiet waiting room — eerily so.  The waiting room was completely packed.  Couples holding each other’s hands, individuals trying to look occupied by their phone or an old issue of Canadian Living Magazine. I was frozen where I stood, looking around, processing what I was seeing.  These people were here because of the struggle with infertility.  

I knew and understood that infertility was an issue.  I was a Surrogate, matched with a couple who at the time were 8 years into their journey to a child. 

So, if I knew about this, why was I stranded in a crowded waiting room so surprised? Truthfully, I didn’t fully understand how many people infertility affected.  1 in 6 couples.  That’s a sobering statistic.  Why didn’t I know?  Simply, the stigma that surrounds it. 

The reality of those all those people at the clinic with infertility, is that they were not alone.  The stigma of being labelled as infertile is not something anyone wants.  While there should be no shame in having difficulties conceiving it is still experienced because infertility has only recently become a topic discussed in the news or social media. 

The only way to reduce the stigma attached to infertility is to encourage the conversation and to support those who are facing difficulties conceiving. 

As I started writing this blog I wondered, do I have the right to have an opinion about infertility?  After all, I’m one of those women who conceived without issue.  So easily, that I carried babies for others.  No one struggling with infertility wants to hear from me and how easy I had it.  

I considered that if the stigma around infertility needs to change, then maybe those of us who don’t struggle should make the first move to be the change. We can choose to be advocates for others.  We can help to change laws for fertility treatments and financial compensation for surrogates or decide to be surrogates or egg donors.  We can do more simple things as well.  We can stop asking friends or family those dreaded questions “When are you going to start a family?” Or “Do you not want kids?” 

All in all, infertility is a topic that shouldn’t be swept under the rug, but rather, one that we should all be aware of. Let’s work on educating ourselves and our society on the prevalence and challenges that couples and individuals go through while trying to build a family. The struggles that individuals and families face regarding infertility should be part of a journey to other ways of creating life. We hope that at Fertility Match, we can create the necessary stepping stones to destigmatize infertility, and create a discussion about third party reproduction.  

Our dream at Fertlity Match is to connect couples and individuals in finding the right Surrogate or Egg Donor, and to make families a reality. Choose Fertility Match as your Fertility Consulting Agency, and we promise to make your journey to building a family a wonderful and positive experience.

Gestational Surrogacy vs. Traditional Surrogacy

Third party reproduction has come a long way, and with science we are now able to help make dreams of a family a reality for many hopeful individuals and couples. At Fertility Match, we work only with Gestational Surrogacy which is the most common form of Surrogacy in Canada.

Gestational Surrogates are not genetically related to the child. The Intended Mother, or Egg Donor, undergoes an egg retrieval. Her eggs are then fertilized with the Intended Father’s sperm, or the sperm from a donor. The fertilized egg becomes an embryo. The Gestational Surrogate then undergoes the embryo transfer.

Comparatively, a traditional Surrogate would conceive through artificial insemination using the Intended Father or sperm donor’s sperm. The child born from a traditional Surrogate would be genetically related to her.

Gestational Surrogacy provides a wonderful experience for all parties involved. The Surrogates at Fertility Match truly want to see their Intended Parent(s) build a family.

Are you being drawn to giving life’s greatest gift? Do you want to help someone in need? Contact us for information on becoming a Surrogate, and be a part of a community of support and love.

All About Our Intended Parents

At Fertility Match, our first priority is to make the Surrogacy journey the best it can be for all parties involved. The advantage of working with Fertility Match is that we select only the best Intended Parents for our Surrogates to work with. We work with only Canadian Intended Parents who intend on raising Canadian children. Our Co-founder Lisa has been there as a 2x Surrogate, and works to select only the Intended Parents with the same qualities that she would expect of a couple she chose to work with.

Every woman has different reasons and motivations for pursuing Surrogacy. We give our Surrogates the choice of who they would like to work with. We have wonderful couples with different backgrounds, sexual orientation, marital status, and reasons for requiring Surrogacy. Whether you are looking to work specifically with a cancer survivor or a same sex couple, we have excellent Canadian Intended Parents for you to work with.

Oftentimes, Intended Parents experience a difficult journey over the span of years while they are trying to conceive. The anticipation and heartbreak are just some of many stages of the infertility journey that they endure. Unfortunately, Surrogacy is not their Plan A, but it can sometimes be the only option for many families and individuals. More importantly, because of their challenging experiences, Intended Parents are adamant about putting all the effort they can into their fertility journey – giving the Surrogate all the help and support necessary.

At Fertility Match, we carefully select Intended Parents looking for a wonderful woman that will be a part of their journey to build a family. The expected care and effort from both Surrogates and Intended Parents is part of the matching process. We make sure that the Intended Parents we accept into our program have a wonderful support system, with family and friends that are supportive of their challenges and choice to pursue Surrogacy.

By selecting Fertility Match as your Fertility Consulting Agency for Surrogacy, we can promise that our Intended Parents are those who value our approach and have the personal desire to make their Surrogacy journey a positive and successful experience. Contact us today and speak to one of our Fertility Consultants to learn more about the Surrogacy process.

Why Fertility Match is the Best Egg Donation Agency in Canada

Fertility Match Canada wants to change what people should expect from an Egg Donation and Surrogacy Agency in Canada. We pride ourselves on bringing a new standard of care to all of our clients – and our Egg Donor Program is no exception to this.  We offer a unique, compassionate, personal approach to the journey of egg donation that allows us to make the experience a positive one for you and the Intended Parents who select you as their Donor.

It is our responsibility as an Agency to to ensure the Egg Donors in our program are supported through every step of this journey. One of the first things we tell Donors we accept into our program is that they’re now part of the Fertility Match family and we are here for them through every stage of the process.

Fertility Match Egg Donors are incredible, kind, intelligent young women who want to help someone build their family and happiness. It’s an incredibly rewarding experience; we hear great things from all of our Donors about their donations.

Here’s what our Donors have to say about the Fertility Match difference:

“I was scared to be left alone on this journey, but Liz was always just a phone call away, and just like my own mother she checked on me before and after my appointments. I couldn’t have asked for more from her.”

“My egg donation journey has been amazing. Every minor and major issue was dealt with, and it was made sure that there was no discomfort experienced by me.”

“I would recommend Fertility Match to all my friends interested in being Egg Donors. There is no other place that could make you feel good about yourself and appreciate what you are doing. I even asked my own sister to be an Egg Donor for Fertility Match.”

Is egg donation with Fertility Match right for you? Contact us today to find out – there are no obligations or costs to speak with one of our consultants.

Why Become A Fertility Match Surrogate?

Infertility in Canada

Infertility rates are on the rise. Approximately 15% of Canadian families struggle with infertility each year, a ten percent increase since the 1980’s. Surrogacy bridges this infertility gap and gives couples a viable option.

There are many reasons for this rise in infertility and the need for surrogates. Many cancer survivors are rendered infertile due to treatments. Various illnesses and medical complications require women to have partial or total hysterectomies. Conditions such as PCOS cause reproductive organs to not function properly. Complications from previous births can result in infertility and some women are be born without uteruses. Additionally gay men who want to be fathers have to turn to surrogacy.

 

Why be a Surrogate?

By becoming a surrogate you get to give one of the greatest gifts and make a positive social change. You will be helping caring people become loving parents and help to create a family that otherwise would not exist. Surrogacy gives you a an everlasting sense of pride and accomplishment as well as a lifelong bond and connection with the family you help create.

Why Choose Fertility Match?

Fertility Match is unique in that it’s run by women who have been in your shoes. Lisa Casselman has been a surrogate twice, giving birth to two sets of twins, and and Liz Ellwood used a surrogate and egg donor to have her daughter after surviving cancer. Fertility Match was founded with the mission to create a positive experience for everyone involved in the fertility process. Fertility Match is Canada’s only low volume customized fertility consulting agency.  We work directly with all our surrogates, egg donors, and intended parents to ensure a personalized and positive experience. The Fertility Match Surrogates and Intended Parents are expertly screened to ensure that your desired journey and the intended parents desired journey match up. We want you and your intended parents to have a good connection and analyze personality profiles to ensure it. The Fertility Match difference is that our focus is on you and your experience.

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