At Fertility Match, we’ve always believed that surrogacy is truly the journey of many and effects everyone it touches. The other day, one of our amazing Surrogate Mothers reached out to Lisa to share a beautiful moment.
“This. This is the magic of surrogacy.
Last night my daughter asked if she could snuggle me while we watched a movie after dinner. Of course I said yes! She was just laying there with me, delighted she could finally see and feel baby moving!
Her exact words: “mum this is special, a mom and dad wouldn’t have this baby unless you carried him in your belly. That would be sad because everyone should be able to have babies if they want them. Is this a miracle?”
Yes honey, it is! Women are strong and are capable of anything!
And then she fell asleep. What an incredible journey this is. A lesson in love that my daughter will not soon forget!”
Then, Surrogate S told us that her wonderful daughter tells baby good night every single night, until his Intended Parents are able to tell him themselves. Surrogacy is a beautiful journey not only for one family, but for many.
If you’re interested in experiencing the magic of surrogacy, please reach out to us today.
We know Surrogacy can be confusing to women who are in the early stages of considering this life changing gift. We get so many similar questions, so we thought we would answer them in a blog post! If you have any other questions, feel free to get in touch with us. We’d be happy to speak to you about Surrogacy.
Will the child be genetically related to me?
No, the child will not be genetically related to you. At Fertility Match, we only work with Gestational Surrogates. In Gestational Surrogacy, the Intended Mother, or Egg Donor, undergoes an egg retrieval. Her eggs are then fertilized with the Intended Father’s sperm, or the sperm from a donor. The fertilized egg becomes an embryo. The Gestational Surrogate then undergoes the embryo transfer.
Do I get to choose to work with an OB, Midwife, or Doula?
Yes. By the 12th week of pregnancy, you will be released by the fertility clinic and will get to choose which kind of prenatal care you prefer. We ask you to tell us your preference when you are coming into the program, so we can match you with IP’s that are on board with your care and birth plan. We have you fill out a Surrogate application and learn about your preferences, so that we can select IP’s that would best support you in the pregnancy.
Can I be a Surrogate if I haven’t given birth?
One of the requirements in being a Surrogate is that you have had a least one child of your own. A fertility clinic will not screen you in as a Surrogate if these criteria is not met. At Fertility Match, we ask that you have had at least one pregnancy without complications. Because we want the best for you as the Surrogate and the IP’s baby, we need to see a history of a healthy pregnancy.
Will I have to pay for my pregnancy-related expenses?
No, the Surrogacy journey is at no cost to you. You will be reimbursed for your pregnancy-related expenses up to $30,000. This can include things such as groceries, maternity clothes, lost wages for appointments, etc. Before the embryo transfer, you would be reimbursed for your travel expenses. The amounts may vary, depending on different pregnancy factors (twins, C-section, and any complications that may arise).
Will I see the children after the birth?
The IPs in our program are looking to work with a Surrogate who will be an extension of their family and be a special “aunt” to their children after the birth. It is up to you and the IPs to discuss what you feel comfortable with as contact after the birth. We also ask this question before matching you with IPs, so that the couple you are matched with has a similar expectation of contact after the birth.
Will I have to travel away from home?
We will discuss with you what your desires are for travel related to medical appointments. We understand that not all Surrogates are able to travel due to family commitments. We have Intended Parents from all over Canada, so it is your choice what your parameters are.
Do I get to choose the Intended Parents I carry for?
Absolutely. You can choose to work with a same sex couple, heterosexual couple, or a single man or woman. We have Intended Parents who require a Surrogate for different reasons, such as cancer survivors and those with infertility. We leave it up to you who you would like to work with.
Considering Surrogacy? Do you have any other questions? Click here to contact us and one of our Fertility Consultants would be happy to speak with you.
Third party reproduction has come a long way, and with science we are now able to help make dreams of a family a reality for many hopeful individuals and couples. At Fertility Match, we work only with Gestational Surrogacy which is the most common form of Surrogacy in Canada.
Gestational Surrogates are not genetically related to the child. The Intended Mother, or Egg Donor, undergoes an egg retrieval. Her eggs are then fertilized with the Intended Father’s sperm, or the sperm from a donor. The fertilized egg becomes an embryo. The Gestational Surrogate then undergoes the embryo transfer.
Comparatively, a traditional Surrogate would conceive through artificial insemination using the Intended Father or sperm donor’s sperm. The child born from a traditional Surrogate would be genetically related to her.
Gestational Surrogacy provides a wonderful experience for all parties involved. The Surrogates at Fertility Match truly want to see their Intended Parent(s) build a family.
Are you being drawn to giving life’s greatest gift? Do you want to help someone in need? Contact us for information on becoming a Surrogate, and be a part of a community of support and love.
At Fertility Match, our first priority is to make the Surrogacy journey the best it can be for all parties involved. The advantage of working with Fertility Match is that we select only the best Intended Parents for our Surrogates to work with. We work with only Canadian Intended Parents who intend on raising Canadian children. Our Co-founder Lisa has been there as a 2x Surrogate, and works to select only the Intended Parents with the same qualities that she would expect of a couple she chose to work with.
Every woman has different reasons and motivations for pursuing Surrogacy. We give our Surrogates the choice of who they would like to work with. We have wonderful couples with different backgrounds, sexual orientation, marital status, and reasons for requiring Surrogacy. Whether you are looking to work specifically with a cancer survivor or a same sex couple, we have excellent Canadian Intended Parents for you to work with.
Oftentimes, Intended Parents experience a difficult journey over the span of years while they are trying to conceive. The anticipation and heartbreak are just some of many stages of the infertility journey that they endure. Unfortunately, Surrogacy is not their Plan A, but it can sometimes be the only option for many families and individuals. More importantly, because of their challenging experiences, Intended Parents are adamant about putting all the effort they can into their fertility journey – giving the Surrogate all the help and support necessary.
At Fertility Match, we carefully select Intended Parents looking for a wonderful woman that will be a part of their journey to build a family. The expected care and effort from both Surrogates and Intended Parents is part of the matching process. We make sure that the Intended Parents we accept into our program have a wonderful support system, with family and friends that are supportive of their challenges and choice to pursue Surrogacy.
By selecting Fertility Match as your Fertility Consulting Agency for Surrogacy, we can promise that our Intended Parents are those who value our approach and have the personal desire to make their Surrogacy journey a positive and successful experience. Contact us today and speak to one of our Fertility Consultants to learn more about the Surrogacy process.
Infertility in Canada
Infertility rates are on the rise. Approximately 15% of Canadian families struggle with infertility each year, a ten percent increase since the 1980’s. Surrogacy bridges this infertility gap and gives couples a viable option.
There are many reasons for this rise in infertility and the need for surrogates. Many cancer survivors are rendered infertile due to treatments. Various illnesses and medical complications require women to have partial or total hysterectomies. Conditions such as PCOS cause reproductive organs to not function properly. Complications from previous births can result in infertility and some women are be born without uteruses. Additionally gay men who want to be fathers have to turn to surrogacy.
Why be a Surrogate?
By becoming a surrogate you get to give one of the greatest gifts and make a positive social change. You will be helping caring people become loving parents and help to create a family that otherwise would not exist. Surrogacy gives you a an everlasting sense of pride and accomplishment as well as a lifelong bond and connection with the family you help create.
Why Choose Fertility Match?
Fertility Match is unique in that it’s run by women who have been in your shoes. Lisa Casselman has been a surrogate twice, giving birth to two sets of twins, and and Liz Ellwood used a surrogate and egg donor to have her daughter after surviving cancer. Fertility Match was founded with the mission to create a positive experience for everyone involved in the fertility process. Fertility Match is Canada’s only low volume customized fertility consulting agency. We work directly with all our surrogates, egg donors, and intended parents to ensure a personalized and positive experience. The Fertility Match Surrogates and Intended Parents are expertly screened to ensure that your desired journey and the intended parents desired journey match up. We want you and your intended parents to have a good connection and analyze personality profiles to ensure it. The Fertility Match difference is that our focus is on you and your experience.
Top 5 things to Consider When Becoming a Surrogate Mother in Canada
It is a truly wonderful thing to consider becoming a Surrogate Mother to help another become a parent. Through surrogacy, you are allowing another young, hopeful family to experience the miracle of life. There are few experiences that compare to being a surrogate mother. The decision to become a Surrogate Mother is not one that should be taken lightly. There are many factors to consider when making this decision.
Being a Surrogate Mother in Canada is something that will positively change your life as well as the lives of the Intended Parent(s) you will be helping. That is why it is important to be fully prepared, in order to make an informed decision.
What are the top 5 things to consider before becoming a Surrogate Mother in Canada?
- Physical prerequisites
- Mental prerequisites
- Lifestyle prerequisites
- Support network
- Choosing a suitable and credible agency
1. Physical Prerequisites for a Surrogate Mother in Canada
Before you can become a Surrogate in Canada, there are certain physical requirements that need to be met. Being of good overall health is necessary for aspiring Surrogate Mothers. Here are some other physical requirements:
- You must be a Canadian Citizen with active provincial health insurance
- Must be between the ages of 21 and 45
- Must already be a parent that had a complication-free pregnancy and birth
- Regular menstrual cycles
- Body Mass Index (BMI) must be lower than 32
- No history of hereditary physical illnesses or diseases
A certain level of physical fitness is also required. BMI is calculated by looking at your height to weight ratio. Here is the equation to figure it out:
- Weight (kg) / Height X 2 (m)
- If you score less than 32 you can be eligible for surrogacy.
2. Mental Prerequisites for a Surrogate Mother
The process to become a Surrogate Mother isn’t always easy. There can be many ups and downs along the journey.
Surrogacy candidates should be of sound mind and willing to make the mental commitment needed to endure the process. The process of bearing a child to term is stressful as is, under any circumstances, and the surrogacy factor – the knowledge that the child being carried is to be given to someone else to raise, once he or she is born – can be an emotional journey in itself.
Some mental prerequisites include:
- Willingness to be subject to various psychological assessments
- No history of psychological problems
- No issue with relinquishing child or children after birth
3. Lifestyle Prerequisites for a Surrogate Mother
Prospective surrogate mothers will need to live a healthy lifestyle free of harmful habits or behaviours. Some of these lifestyle requirements are:
- Maintain a nutritious diet with regular exercise
- No smoking, drug use, or alcohol abuse
- Be willing to have background checks done on you (and your spouse if relevant)
- No travel to areas infected with the ZIKA virus in the previous 6 months
- Willing and able to travel to appointments with lawyers and doctors
- Able to come in to the fertility clinic when required
- Flexible schedule that allows time away from work and family
- Willing and able to take IVF medications
4. Support Network for a Surrogate Mother
It is extremely important to have a positive support network in place that you can turn to for emotional support and encouragement. Friends, Family, a Partner that you can rely on for doctor appointments, childcare, any bed rest and the delivery are an incredibly valuable resource for any Surrogate Mother to have when going on this journey.
5. Choosing a Suitable and Credible Fertility Consulting Agency in Canada
Becoming a surrogate mother is an enormous and rewarding undertaking. You definitely want to make sure you are working with an agency that is right for you, with your best interests in mind.
Fertility Match is a Fertility Consulting Company that truly understands the entire surrogacy process, and what the participants go through. The co-founders of Fertility Match have active experience as both a Surrogate in Canada and Intended Parent in Canada. This can provide surrogates with tremendous comfort and reassurance, knowing they have someone to turn to for empathy and support.